Overcoming White Supremacy with Love in Action

Overcoming White Supremacy with Love in Action

This piece was originally published at Not In Our Town on October 17, 2017.

In order to transcend white supremacy, we must become centered in ourselves, our values, and our hard, shared work ahead. This requires cultural humility and transformative love in action.

White supremacy is the internalization of the idea of white superiority (the knowing better or being the one to help or “invite in”). Cultural humility is the ability to look at yourself and commit to consider a privilege and power analysis as it impacts your everyday assumptions and interactions. So often we fight against the bigotry of the “other” person instead of examining ourselves. We must unpack white supremacy and our own values that interact with that bias. This takes courage and risk. We must ask questions like:

  • How do my privileges exempt me from this racialized experience—or do they?

  • How do my actions support racism as a pillar of our society?

  • How can I use my power and privileges to support and hold space for healing for all people and to change the tide for people of color?

Cultural humility means listening to stories of white supremacy as it has been experienced by people of color and believing them. I notice a consistent desire on the part of white allies to “fix” and “help”. Too many people of color work to exhaustion, hoping white allies will dig deeper and make real changes in their families, churches, and networks. We work willingly and just ask for the same level of investment, risk, and listening. But too often we become the project versus all of us being able to focus and do the work that begs to be done together. Reverend Traci Blackmon states, “The story matters… The role of the ally is not to lead or to fix. The ally holds the story and amplifies the voice of the storyteller.”

I have been invited to “testify” to the existence of white supremacy in my own life many times. As you read my stories, reflect: “Where am I in this story? What can I do?”

Excusing Slavery

At a recent speaking engagement, I was confronted by a woman who described George Washington, as one of our forefathers of our country, as being a better man than Robert E. Lee. Her reason was that Washington freed his slaves at his death despite daunting recorded stories of Washington and Martha hunting down escaped slaves for years. “He did the right thing for his time,” she said. She went on to say he could not free his wife’s slaves as “they weren’t his” and could not free the slaves entrusted to his children as “that was their livelihood.” In this moment, I saw the double-edged sword of even the most dedicated white liberal ally. What this country has sold along with racism is access to wealth, privilege, and security for the white family. Who is ready to give up that for the sake of the “other”? I knew my work that night was not to hold my tongue, so I named the contradiction in values I heard spoken. But in my heart I hoped my white allies in the room would have said something first. They did not. That action would challenge the safety white supremacy has promised them since the founding of this country.

Prioritizing White Feelings

In 2017, many Americans are waking up for the first time to how Confederate statues and monuments were originally meant to intimidate people of color. The problem with asking, “Should the statues be taken down?” is how myopic this question is. We can take down as many as we want, and we still have to do personal work around racial justice and systems change. Otherwise, statues will come down and a larger, more intimidating force will emerge without the work of coordinated racial justice interventions.

In my own community now, we are talking about murals, plaques, and monuments to honor the great Civil Rights leader W.E.B. Du Bois for his 150th birthday anniversary. And with the charged political climate after Charlottesville, Virginia, some people have expressed fear of backlash, questioning Du Bois’s patriotism. We are actually tasked with tallying up how many white monuments we have and talking about where and how to place this global Civil Rights icon and his name so it doesn't create a community divide over his politics. This discomfort celebrating a historical leader who stood and wrote eloquently and sagely for economic justice, civil rights, and progressive education is reflective of internalized and overt white supremacy alive in our communities. This persists even when the intention is only goodness—when we all share values Du Bois’s values of humanity and community. I can only hope that the legacy, courage, and honor of this great thought leader and activist prevail and those with privilege and power continue to honor and celebrate him in the face of discomfort. Without conflict, discomfort, and tension, we cannot transcend and outgrow white supremacy.

Failing to Prioritize the Safety of People of Color

I was recently asked by a journalist to respond to the white nationalist movement in my state. I declined and expressed concerns for my safety and that of my family. I noted the potential negative impact a statement from me could have on racial justice and immigrant advocacy work going on. Instead I shared a resource for folks looking for help as county-wide coalitions have formed to keep people of color and threatened populations safe. While the resource I offered was acknowledged as important, it was not shared. The priority was not maintaining the safety of people of color. That is the privilege of white supremacy: to prioritize intent over impact on people of color for a sense of “doing the right thing.”

To the white ally who experiences these stories as a pinch on the arm that wakes you up for a few moments, I urge you to let them be more. These are scary, often traumatic human experiences that have emotional, psychological, and health costs. This is everyday white supremacy, and it has a real cost for every person of color.

In 2016, in a conversation with OnBeing, activist Ruby Sales shared: “Love is not antithetical to being outraged… There are two kinds of anger… redemptive anger [moves you to] transformation and human up-building. Non-redemptive anger is [what] white supremacy roots itself in.” Once we make this distinction, we understand that we have to do more than protest and march; we have to act differently in the most quiet of moments and in our most personally valued relationships.

What do we value more than wealth, privilege, and security? I think it is love as Ruby Sales, bell hooks, and Dr. Martin Luther King describe love. And in order to have an abundance of what we love (connection, fulfillment, safety, justice, and joy), we must look at what we have to give up. Equity requires a give in order to receive. This kind of love takes grit (deliberate practice), resilience (ability to fail and keep trying), and love in action (a belief in our collective humanity). Thankfully, we can practice this at any moment. I know it is how we transform and transcend all forms of white supremacy.


Du Bois 150th Festival. https://dubois150th.com/
“Where does it hurt?” A Conversation with Ruby Sales. OnBeing. 15 September 2016.

© 2017 Gwendolyn Hampton VanSant

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